“Family Dysfunction, Redeemed, pt. 2 (Genesis 37-38)” | 7/18/2021

Genesis 37-38 | 7/18/21 | Will DuVal

This morning, we’re returning to our study of Genesis, in ch38, if you want to turn there in your Bibles (if you don’t HAVE a Bible, we’d love to give you one, at the Info Bar). “Family Dysfunction, Redeemed, pt. TWO” - part ONE was chapter thirty-SEVEN, 2 weeks ago. Ch37 introduced us to the family of Jacob, aka Israel, his 11 sons, and in particular his favorite son JOSEPH, and the dysfunctional family dynamics surrounding him. And we extrapolated 10 principles for healthy family functioning from ch.37, 10 SINS that families need to avoid: 

#1 - The sin of FAVORITISM. Joseph, with his “coat of many colors”, was Israel’s favorite son. But God doesn’t play favorites with HIS children, and neither should we. 

#2 - The sin of SLANDER. Joseph exacerbated the problem by TATTLING on his brothers. Do we talk our family members UP, or tear them DOWN, with our speech?

#3 -  ANGER. Joseph’s brothers grew to HATE him. And if we don’t deal with our anger, in family relationships and OTHERWISE - it’s only gonna build and fester and eventually boil over and cause even worse division. 

#4 - BOASTING. Joseph rubs his favoritism in his brothers’ faces, “I’m the greatest”; But Scripture says our only boasting should be in the LORD

#5 - Joseph’s brothers grow JEALOUS. Proverbs says “Envy will ROT your bones” (14:30). How many of our families have been poisoned by ENVY? 

#6 - INSENSITIVITY. If Jacob were a good parent, he would have picked up on such toxicity within the family, and addressed it. We need to pay attention to our family dynamics, and seek to be peacemakers. 

#7 - VENGEANCE. Unaddressed anger and resentment WILL lead to a desire for vengeance. In our flesh, like Joseph’s brothers, we want to get EVEN. We want JUSTICE. But God says, “Leave that to ME; YOU work to forgive others.” 

#8 - GREED. Joseph’s brothers ultimately decide to SELL him, into slavery, for 20 shekels of silver. People do TERRIBLE things - to their own flesh and blood! - when money, or rather, the LOVE of money, is involved. 

#9 - DECEPTION. Jacob’s sons LIE to him about Joseph. But  the strongest families can handle the truth, even difficult truth, shared in love. 

And finally, #10- DESPAIR. Jacob despaired over losing Joseph. He lost ALL HOPE; that’s hard for a family to recover from.  

But ch.37 ended with a glimmer of hope. With REDEMPTION, foreshadowed. The promise that this isn’t the END of Joseph’s story; God’s not DONE with him yet. 


And that’s the exact same movement we’re going to see AGAIN this morning in ch.38, and the infamous story of Judah and Tamar - BTW, somehow we managed to do an entire sermon series here a year and a half ago on the “Toughest Texts” in the Bible, and NOT cover this one; that means there are 11 passages that are harder to preach than THIS one! But the way I’m gonna preach it this morning is, once again, part practical, but part prophetic. This story offers us 5 additional, practical warnings for families - “Don’t be like THIS!” - but it will once again END with a glimmer of hope. And redemption, foreshadowed. 


Like ch.37, the big takeaway here is once again that:

Every family is flawed, but never beyond God’s ability to redeem.” 


You think YOUR family is SCREWED UP? Ha! Just wait til you hear about JUDAH’S! This is some 4,000 year old Jerry Springer-grade dysfunction - this story has got it ALL: the cheating, the incest, the paternity test; on JERRY they just throw CHAIRS at each other; Judah is gonna try and burn Tamar at the stake! Trust me: you’re all gonna feel a LOT better about your family, walking out today. But the MORAL of the story is that no matter HOW messed up your family is, no matter how messed up YOU are, personally, there is NO ONE, no family, that is beyond the limit of God’s grace. You can’t out-sin God’s grace. You can’t out-dysfunction God’s redemption. God takes the very WORST we throw at Him, forgives us, restores us, and then providentially brings “right” out of our “wrong”; He uses our “bad” to accomplish our good


Would you stand… Genesis ch.38: 


“It happened at that time that Judah went down from his brothers and turned aside to a certain Adullamite, whose name was Hirah. 2 There Judah saw the daughter of a certain Canaanite whose name was Shua. He took her and went in to her, 3 and she conceived and bore a son, and he called his name Er. 4 She conceived again and bore a son, and she called his name Onan. 5 Yet again she bore a son, and she called his name Shelah. Judah[a] was in Chezib when she bore him.

6 And Judah took a wife for Er his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah's firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the Lord, and the Lord put him to death. 8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother's wife and perform the duty of a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his. So whenever he went in to his brother's wife he would waste the semen on the ground, so as not to give offspring to his brother. 10 And what he did was wicked in the sight of the Lord, and he put him to death also. 11 Then Judah said to Tamar his daughter-in-law, “Remain a widow in your father's house, till Shelah my son grows up”—for he feared that he would die, like his brothers. So Tamar went and remained in her father's house.

12 In the course of time the wife of Judah, Shua's daughter, died. When Judah was comforted, he went up to Timnah to his sheepshearers, he and his friend Hirah the Adullamite. 13 And when Tamar was told, “Your father-in-law is going up to Timnah to shear his sheep,” 14 she took off her widow's garments and covered herself with a veil, wrapping herself up, and sat at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. For she saw that Shelah was grown up, and she had not been given to him in marriage. 15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 He turned to her at the roadside and said, “Come, let me come in to you,” for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law. She said, “What will you give me, that you may come in to me?” 17 He answered, “I will send you a young goat from the flock.” And she said, “If you give me a pledge, until you send it—” 18 He said, “What pledge shall I give you?” She replied, “Your signet and your cord and your staff that is in your hand.” So he gave them to her and went in to her, and she conceived by him. 19 Then she arose and went away, and taking off her veil she put on the garments of her widowhood.

20 When Judah sent the young goat by his friend the Adullamite to take back the pledge from the woman's hand, he did not find her. 21 And he asked the men of the place, “Where is the cult prostitute[b] who was at Enaim at the roadside?” And they said, “No cult prostitute has been here.” 22 So he returned to Judah and said, “I have not found her. Also, the men of the place said, ‘No cult prostitute has been here.’” 23 And Judah replied, “Let her keep the things as her own, or we shall be laughed at. You see, I sent this young goat, and you did not find her.”

24 About three months later Judah was told, “Tamar your daughter-in-law has been immoral.[c] Moreover, she is pregnant by immorality.”[d] And Judah said, “Bring her out, and let her be burned.” 25 As she was being brought out, she sent word to her father-in-law, “By the man to whom these belong, I am pregnant.” And she said, “Please identify whose these are, the signet and the cord and the staff.” 26 Then Judah identified them and said, “She is more righteous than I, since I did not give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not know her again.

27 When the time of her labor came, there were twins in her womb. 28 And when she was in labor, one put out a hand, and the midwife took and tied a scarlet thread on his hand, saying, “This one came out first.” 29 But as he drew back his hand, behold, his brother came out. And she said, “What a breach you have made for yourself!” Therefore his name was called Perez.[e]30 Afterward his brother came out with the scarlet thread on his hand, and his name was called Zerah.” THIS is the word of the Lord…

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