"Jesus Changes Our Marriages (Ephesians 5:21-33)", Will DuVal | 11/17/24

Ephesians 5:21-33 | 11/17/24 | Will DuVal

This morning we’re talking about MARRIAGE, which our society doesn’t have a particularly great OPINION of, as reflected in many of our JOKES

“Marriage isn’t a WORD, it’s a SENTENCE.” 

“Marriage requires give and take; you give in and she takes over.” 

“Marriage is a 3-ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, then SUFFER-ing.” 


But God’s WORD, on the other hand, presents a much more POSITIVE view of marriage. The Bible says marriage is a good gift from a good GOD, that meets a VARIETY of our needs in life: 

Our existential need, for progeny: “God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth…” (Gen 1:28)

Our relational need, for companionship: “God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”” (Gen 2:18)

Our physical need (or at least our DESIRE) for sex: “Because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.” (1 Cor 7:2-3)

And our practical needs, for productivity (“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil”), for support (“If they fall, one will lift up [the other]”), for comfort (“if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?”), and for protection (“though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him”) (Ecc 4:9-12). 


But this morning, in the most important passage on marriage in the entire BIBLE, Ephesians 5:21-33, the apostle Paul is gonna highlight for us the way in which God, through marriage, meets our two-fold SPIRITUAL need: for 1) SANCTIFICATION - daily growth in Christlikeness - and for 2) GOSPELING - our need for daily reminding of all that Christ has done for us in the gospel. And according to Ephesians 5, marriage - REAL marriage, BIBLICAL marriage - is a living PICTURE, a 3-dimensional, visible ILLUSTRATION and INCARNATION of that gospel


This is the “profound mystery” to which we turn our attention this morning. But before we DO, I wanna say a quick word to 2 different demographics of folks who may otherwise find this sermon difficult to digest


The first is our SINGLES, including those of you who are widowed, or divorced. You may have walked in this morning, seen the sermon title, and been tempted to walk right back out. Here’s why I’m glad you didn’t. First of all, our corporate worship is ALWAYS better when you’re here. But second: just because you’re not married today doesn’t mean you won’t ONE DAY be; God may want some of you singles to file these truths about marriage away for your OWN, later. But third: ALL of you KNOW plenty of folks who ARE married, who you’ve been called to love, serve, and pray for. Perhaps God has a word this morning for you to pass on to your married FRIEND, SIBLING, or CO-worker.

Lastly, if God wants to use marriage to remind us of the gospel, here’s the thing: it doesn’t HAVE to be YOUR marriage! I believe one of God’s biggest purposes in Christian marriage is to give us a WITNESS to others: we’re called to be a picture of the gospel FOR THEM! So, singles, I pray that you will be blessed this morning to be reminded of the gospel through marriage, even if it’s NOT your own.  


But the SECOND demographic I want to appeal to now are the MARRIED folks who are too busy PRAYING and nudging their SPOUSES right now to hear anything for themselves from the Lord: “God, I pray you’ll speak to HIS heart this morning… Honey, are YOU listening…?”. 

Jesus said, “Why don’t you worry about the log in your OWN eye, and let ME take care of the speck of sawdust in your SPOUSE’S” (Mt 7:4). Why don’t you ask me what I want YOU to hear this morning, and let ME (the Holy Spirit) take care of convicting your SPOUSE’S heart. Fair enough? 


Okay, let’s go; I invite you to STAND… Ephesians 5:21-33. We pick up in v21, where Paul has just been exhorting us to be FILLED with the SPIRIT, and then he says THIS. Hear the word… 

“[Be filled with the Spirit]...submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 

32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” 

[This is the word of the Lord… Seated…]

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