“Saved by Grace through Faith for Works (Acts 15:1-35)” | 6/12/22

Acts 15:1-35 | 6/12/22 | Will DuVal

Polly and I almost didn’t get married. While we were engaged, I got invited up to her family’s summer home on Lake Michigan. It was an unseasonably warm July, and being less than an hour from the U.P., no one has air conditioning. So when we attended a dinner and dance event at their country club one evening after a particularly sweltering day, temperatures were easily in the high 80s inside the clubhouse. Now, I had dated Polly long enough by this point to know the dress code for such a soiree: coat and tie. But I am as stubborn as I am pragmatic: I HATE being told what to do, especially when the rules don’t make any SENSE. So naturally, when I sat down at the dinner table, I took my coat OFF, and loosened my tie. Well, I was kindly but immediately informed by Polly’s family that men had to keep their jackets on in the clubhouse. So, reluctantly and resentfully, I obliged. Finally the dinner finished, and I was relieved to see a few guys taking their jackets off to head to the dance floor, so I quickly followed suit. But not long into our dancing, Polly returned from a water break with word from her family that they would really prefer it if I kept my jacket on.

Well, that was it for me. I LEFT the God-forsaken jacket - “If they love it so much, they can KEEP it!” - and I STORMED out. Polly chased after me and apologized. I informed her in no uncertain terms that if THIS was the kind of lifestyle she wanted, we could call off the wedding. She assured me it WASN’T, that she didn’t CARE about putting on airs or keeping up with the Joneses, but that they WERE still her family, and she felt caught in the middle. To which I replied, “Well, if you’re still in the middle, I’ll make it EASY on you: Go back inside to your family!” and I stormed off AGAIN. 

But this time, my MOM caught up to me. She was on the trip too and she’d watched the whole thing go down, and she said: “Will, I know this isn’t your scene. It sounds like it isn’t Polly’s scene either. And once you’re married, you can decide together if you never want to attend another country club event ever again. But like it or not, this IS her family’s scene. And they’re important to Polly. So if she’s important to YOU, then they should be too.”

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